The Unscripted Truth About Finding the Right Partner
Hello, Script-Breakers,
Ashlee here, and I'm coming in hot with the unscripted truth on finding your "right" partner.
This isn't your grandmother's advice—unless your grandmother drank alot of white wine and questioned everything—so grab your glass and get ready for a truth so unscripted it might just trigger - I mean inspire-you into making better choices.
Let me tell you about this scene I noticed the other day.
I was walking along the boardwalk, where the sea's tumultuous waves were crashing against the barrier, and there she was: a young woman, lazily strolling along the worn wooden steps, scrolling through her dating apps with the intensity of a detective on a case.
Her friend beside her was audibly turning up her nose at the seemingly paltry offerings that appeared on the screen.
As I watched them critique the bios and photos, I couldn't help but think: the most important question in this modern-day search for a partner isn't "Who are you?" but "Who am I?"
We’ve all been there, haven't we?
The late nights spent crying into a pint of ice cream, the frantic search for a new distraction, a new person to fill the void.
We tell ourselves we’re ready for love, but what we're often really looking for is a human bandage.
A hero in shining armor to save us from ourselves, or a quick fix for our broken parts.
But let's be real, a partner can't save you.
They can't fix you.
They can't make you whole.
That's a job that requires a lot of introspection, endurance, and the brave decision to accept yourself—which means sitting in all the feelings and coming out the other side of the emotional tunnel.
The truth is, the right partner is less about who they are and more about who you are.
Why Your Dating Choices Don't Match Your Desire
The person who is "right" for you depends entirely on what you’re looking to get out of the connection.
And this can be influenced by what you desire, what you think you lack, the emotions you’re trying to avoid by distracting yourself, and the wounds you secretly hope another person can heal.
We're always looking to get
something out of these relationships, and that's not the problem.
The Problem IS When You’re Unaware. Get the Unscripted Truth.
You are right—we all seek something from relationships.
But when you are unaware of your true motivations, that's when you self-sabotage and repeatedly choose the opposite of what you claim to want.
The rest of this post holds the critical insight that explains exactly how your subconscious wounds turn into confusing, painful dating patterns.
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