Deeper Look: The One About The Glitches

It never occurred to me that a glitching laptop and mobile phone could trigger my insecurities, dread and fears so easily or so massively… but that is exactly what happened just as I was working on an important document on my laptop, plunging me into a deep, dark spiral of fear, and stress.

“My eyes lock onto the glaring computer screen, and I feel the beating of my heart increase, thumping belligerently against my chest.

My lungs choke up, my stomach cramp and my brain freezes at the horror unfolding before me.

It feels as if I am valiantly trying to pull cold air into already frozen, tiny lungs-, lungs that are too busy being in shock at the insanity currently transpiring on my laptop, to work properly.

In those quick seconds, my consciousness finally processes what is happening, and I know true, unadulterated, millennial fear.

Almost instantly I am swamped by the kind of icy, prickly, blanketing terror that is causing this cold fusion reaction to detonate within my own body.

There is only one thing I am focusing on right now and it is the horror show unfolding in real time on my laptop, which is causing my body to burn both hot and cold in unreal intervals, as I sit appalled on one of my wooden breakfast chairs with its abstract designed cushion of green, white and taupe, eyes affixed to the screen.”- excerpt from The One About The Glitches

Suddenly I was bombarded with a tsunami of strongly mixed emotions, including, fear, doubt, betrayal and a sense of affirmation that ‘of course’ this horrible thing had happened to me specifically, during this time in my life.

I was swamped and almost buried by my limiting beliefs, while feeling so full of despair and dread and resignation that I was absolutely sure that the whole world was against me.

And in the midst of all of that my scarcity mindset-

that mindset created by the deep, repetitive belief that you will not have more than, or an improvement on what you do right now. And if you do manage this, it will be an arduous process filled with doubt and fear and after all of that, it can be taken away very easily anyway.

– reminded me that this bad luck and potential disaster was just how my life was and would continue to be…

During this time, I was flat out broke, my business was not making any money at all and I was easily triggered because I had connected the success of my business and my ability to make money to my ability to survive.

Hence, failure and continued lack of income seemed to be mocking me, haunting me, which kept me triggered and on the edge of being burnt out often.

Now add the two resources I needed to change my fate, also giving up on me and you can begin to understand the kind of emotional and mental turmoil I was spiralling into on the regular.

It felt as if I was being swallowed up by this rampant, all consuming emotional onslaught as the rampaging tornado of insecurities, dread, betrayal and the never-ending terror around the seemingly inevitable ending of my entrepreneurial dreams all broke free, swamping me.

I regretted all my life choices that had brought me to this point and then just left me…

“What I’m really mad about is the feeling of being powerless and trapped.

That feeling of knowing that right now I am broke and can see no viable way to resolve my current dilemma.

I am pissed because I feel less than.

I am enraged that as an adult who has been trying to generate money in her business, I have failed and continue to fail.

I’m angry that even as I am pursuing my dreams, my dreams are apparently not pursuing me with any kind of the fiery passion I would love them to.

I am afraid of money- making too little and making too much- and I’m losing my hope and faith in my success at creating a lifestyle that feels so safe, happy and warm for myself.

If I’m being honest, recently I’ve not felt abundant or capable, rather I feel as if I’m in constant famine and it sucks so much!

It feels as if no matter what I do or how much I try to rise above my money woes, I will be knocked back into the ocean of scarcity at a moment’s notice and there is just nothing I can do about it, even as I continue to wage a one-sided war against the sheer unjustness of it all.

It’s the war of the scarcity mindset.”- excerpt taken from The One About The Glitches

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But I’m a fighter and through the pain, through the shame, judgment and sheer fear, I was determined not to allow myself to go all in with that nagging rhetoric that called me a flat out failure.

On this day, in order to move forward, I had to learn how to ground myself and begin the healing process. I had to learn how to achieve neutrality.

Within The Ashlee Chronicles’ The One About the Glitches, I share not only how I was triggered and faced this adversity, which dredged up all the fears, disappointments and insecurities of my past, but also the techniques that allowed me to see what felt like such a huge threat to my survival and a blow to my own self-esteem as a neutral event that didn’t actually mean anything about me.

It is my hope that if you’ve ever felt triggered by a bad day in ways that others just can’t seem to understand or relate to, or if you’re felt as if the world is out to get you one event at a time, that reading this book helped you to have more control over your mind and what is actually possible for you!

When you’re ready to explore how to begin the healing process of unhealthy money relationships and taking the charge out of seemingly devastating events, The One About The Glitches is just a click away.

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Deeper Look: Ashlee Shares Slaying The Stressors

By Ashlee Cox • November 14, 2024

In life, we all face ups and downs. We make mistakes, have setbacks, and sometimes feel like we're drowning. But guess what? You're not alone! We've all been there. Life can throw curveballs, and sometimes we end up in places we never expected. But those experiences, good and bad, shape our stories. The key is to not dwell on our mistakes but to learn from them and grow. Not everyone has the guts to own up to their mistakes. It takes courage to face them and understand why we made them. But when we do, we open th e door to heal, learn, and come out stronger. You, my friend, have realized that there's a better way to look at your mistakes and failures. Instead of letting them drag you down, you're using them as stepping stones for growth. In the Slaying The Stressors bundle, I'll show you how to break down your mistakes, find the hidden benefits of accepting them, and release pent-up emotions. I'll share my own story of going from rock bottom to living a life I l ove . I’ll also share with you how to actually release and find relief from the things that are stressing you out, overwhelming you and straight up making your life unnecessarily hard. Our lives can improve and we are safe to truly enjoy it to the fullest. The journey of change isn't straightforward. It takes time, effort, and a willingness to step into the unknown. I'll walk you through the steps, from the initial spark of change to the big shifts that happen over time. My hope is that this bundle will guide you as you navigate the maze of mistakes and failures. Remember, you're capable of rising above your past, embracing your flaws, and creating a life that's true to you. Let's get started on this transformative journey together!

Deeper Look: Work From Home Boundaries

By Ashlee Cox • November 14, 2024

Initially, the prospect of working from home filled you with excitement—no more morning traffic, flexible hours, and the freedom to roll out of bed and ease into your day. But the reality has hit you hard. Working from home is not nearly as easy as you originally thought and it shows. Instead of feeling relaxed and productive, you find yourself not eating well, working longer hours, and feeling more stressed than ever. You're not alone. Many people struggle with work-life balance when they work from home. The distractions are endless: laundry, dishes, TV, and the lure of social media. It's easy to get sidetracked and lose focus. And when you're always "on," it's hard to truly relax and disconnect. Then there is the temptation to give into misplaced guilt and a sense of duty to overwork, answering calls and emails that are outside of your working hours. Don’t despair yet, it is very possible to create a successful and sustainable work-from-home routine. The key is to set boundaries and stick to them. This means creating a dedicated workspace, setting specific work hours, and communicating your boundaries to your family and friends. It also means taking breaks throughout the day and making time for yourself outside of work. Here are some tips for setting and maintaining work-from-home boundaries: Create a dedicated workspace: Having a separate workspace helps you mentally separate work from home. If possible, set up your workspace in a quiet, comfortable area where you won't be disturbed. Set specific work hours: Decide when you're going to work each day and stick to those hours as much as possible. Let your family and friends know your work hours so they don't interrupt you during that time. Communicate your boundaries: Tell your family and friends that you need quiet time during your work hours. Ask them to respect your boundaries and not to disturb you unless it's an emergency. T ake breaks : Get up and move around every 20-30 minutes to prevent stiffness and fatigue. Take a longer break for lunch and step outside for some fresh air. Make time for yourself: Schedule time for yourself outside of work, even if it's just a few minutes. This could be anything from reading a book to going for a walk to spending time with loved ones. By setting and maintaining work-from-home boundaries, you can create a healthy and productive work environment. You'll be able to focus on your work, get more done, and enjoy your time off.

Deeper Look: Skin Care Essentials

By Ashlee Cox • October 7, 2024

I heard that you’re super intimidated by the sheer about of skin care products the beauty industry keeps telling you to add to your routine for ‘amazing results’ and you’re tired of just standing and staring at the different products in your beauty care aisle, completely frazzled about which one to pick, not to mention the PRICE of the ‘best ones for your skin type’! I heard that you’re like me, ready to join the few who actually just want to choose the best product for your skin without all the confusion and excess gimmicks. You’re one of the few who want to have a skin care routine that isn’t complicated, does not require all your savings monthly and you want to see results when you actually use these products. You’re probably also wondering if the only route to good clean, clear and glowing skin is only through the specially designed products…. I’m here to let you know that you are not alone in your musings or your pursuit to enjoy clean, clear skin without the burdens of ‘Am I even using the right thing?’. Believe it or not there are people just like you who are wondering the same, but the information out there seems to only be garnered towards face care . What about the rest of your body? I’ve got you luv! It’s for you that I’ve researched and curated this Skin Care Essentials guide. With all of the aforementioned thoughts and cares in mind, I set out to investigate what skin care actually means, what are the different skin types and what are both the general and specific ways to care for them. In this process, I discovered how much diet, exercise and even sweat can make a difference to your skin and how your skin type can change depending on age, genetics and even your environment. I also discovered what are some of the products, and active ingredients within, that can help certain skin types and the ones you should stay away from. I’m a curious cat who wants to empower you to take back control of your own skin care routine, feeling certain, confident and calm over what is good for you and what isn’t. I want the both of us to understand what overall skin care looks like- not just the beautification of the face, but the overall health and protection of the entire body!