Deeper Look: Unexpected Dating Protocols

Ashlee Cox • October 7, 2024

The real question you’re asking: Is it actually a bad thing to be too selective or ‘picky’?


Am I being difficult, demanding and not appreciative? 


Am I making everything just too hard? 


These are the questions people who others consider too picky find themselves asking all the time and wondering if they are somehow hindering or overlooking a possible good- even great- thing by choosing not to settle for less than what they want. 


While you’re asking yourself these questions, you’re most likely grappling with self-doubt, wondering if you’re being overly demanding and ungrateful, or if you're making life harder for yourselves.


However, I genuinely believe there is something to be said for being on the healthy spectrum of pickiness, and knowing what your standards are, because believe it or not there is a crucial distinction between unhealthy pickiness and a healthy level of selectivity. 


Understanding, accepting and enforcing your healthy life and relationship boundaries as well as  standards are essential for life, especially in dating. 


And let me take this time to gently remind you that being picky has nothing to do with not knowing what you want, rather it's about becoming super clear on knowing what you desire and being empowered enough to accept nothing less. 


Ashlee says: Healthy pickiness = a happy dating experience. 


Let me say that again, but  in a more formal way: healthy pickiness is not about being indecisive or unsure of what you want, rather, it's about gaining clarity on your desires and having the self-assurance to accept nothing less.

 It’s about recognizing what truly resonates with you and possessing the empowerment to seek it out.


Contrary to popular belief, healthy pickiness doesn't lead to a miserable dating experience, but because of your clarity of what you desire, can result in a fulfilling and joyful journey towards finding the right partner.


To help you understand how healthy pickiness can lead to a happy dating experience, I’ve challenged myself to do the research and have outlined these discovered principles in Ashlee Shares: Unexpected Dating Protocols.

 This guide not only introduces a surprising practice that grants individuals the permission to attract their ideal partner, but also provides valuable insights into navigating the dating landscape with empowerment and unwavering commitment to one's standards.


Healthy pickiness is not about being difficult or unappreciative. It's about knowing your worth, respecting your boundaries, and having the courage to seek out a partner who aligns with your values and aspirations. 


When you embrace healthy pickiness, you create the conditions for a fulfilling and lasting relationship.


Within the guide, I’ll be sharing how both your best friends and your exes can be super useful in actually identifying and accepting your ideal next partner. 


How? You may ask. How can these two very different categories of people in my life and relationship dynamics help me to date the person right for me? 


Well let's break it down here. And let’s start with the BFFs


Your close friends can positively have a great impact on your life, helping you boost your self-esteem and overall well-being. 


When it comes to romantic partners, the situation is pretty much the same, as well as the need for a steady and sure foundation to build upon.


You definitely know that you and your partner should have each other's backs and express your love for one another regularly and naturally, so the bond continues to grow stronger.


A common misconception is that it's all about how long you've been in your relationship, but the truth is that just like you need to consistently tend to your pets and your plants, you also need to tend to your relationship.


And to do that, one of the most important things you need to get right is your own loving, supportive relationship with yourself. 


You are a priority in your own life and this is the first and foremost relationship that you need to get right before you can even add another person into the mix.


So, just like you make date nights with your partner, make sure you set aside time for yourself as well. Dress up and step out in style, after all, you are the one who knows what you love, what irks you, and you've stuck with yourself through both times of celebrations and despair.


The latest Ashlee Shares guide will take you on a journey of creating dating standards that truly tick off your genuine list of awesome qualities, show you how to break the cycle of constantly dating people just like your ex, all while finding your own inner strength and love. 

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Learn how dating yourself allows you to foster longer, more fulfilling relationships.


Now let’s move onto the exes!

Take some time to think about what you liked about your exes. 


Be honest with yourself about the things you admired, found unique, and thought were a good match for you.


Remember, they're your exes for a reason. 


Focusing on their bad points won't help you find someone better, but figuring out what qualities you really like, respect, and are drawn to can help you understand what you truly desire and what attracts you in the first place.


Once you know what you want, remind yourself that you deserve to feel safe and happy with someone. Then, start looking for those qualities in your next partner.


You're the boss of your dating life. 


It's time to take charge and find the secure, fulfilling relationship you're looking for.


If you want to improve your dating skills and find a secure and loving relationship faster, check out the Ashlee Shares Unexpected Dating Protocols guide.


 It covers different types of dating, gives tips for making them better, and helps you overcome dating challenges.


When you're ready to take your dating game to the next level, subscribe to the membership to read the  Ashlee Shares Unexpected Dating Protocols guide to learn how to attract even better partners. 


Get ready for a world of love, joy, and happiness as you start your journey toward the loving relationship you've always wanted.

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