Why is the praise kink so popular?

The praise kink is popular because it addresses the universal human desire for validation. In a high-stress world, receiving explicit verbal approval triggers the release of dopamine and oxytocin, creating a powerful emotional bond and reducing performance anxiety during intimacy.

What are common praise kink phrases?

Common phrases used in praise dynamics include 'Good girl/boy/person,' 'You’re doing such a great job for me,' 'I love how you listen,' and 'That’s exactly what I wanted.' The focus is on affirming the partner's actions and presence.

Is a praise kink about power dynamics?

While often associated with D/s (Dominance and submission) relationships, a praise kink can exist in any relationship. It is less about 'control' and more about 'positive reinforcement' and eroticized encouragement.

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Ashlee Shares: The Praise Kink Details

You’ve heard flirt-y compliments.

You’ve seen praise used in sexy scenes.

But what exactly makes the praise kink so powerful — psychologically and erotically?

Ashlee Shares: The Praise Kink is a 42-page Kindle guide that breaks down exactly why hearing “good girl,” “good boy,” or affirmations like that can ignite desire, deepen intimacy, and elevate pleasure when done with consent and clarity.

It’s not just “dirty talk” — it’s affirmation play, a kink rooted in emotional safety and erotic intensity.

Why "Good Girl" Hits Different

In the Ashlee Unscripted philosophy, exploring a praise kink isn't just about the bedroom—it’s about unscripting the shame we feel around needing to be told we are 'enough.'

This guide is for you if :

You’re curious about why praise feels so hot
You want to explore affirmation play with confidence
You’re in a relationship and want to communicate desires better
You love learning about sexual psychology and pleasure dynamics

This isn’t just “dirty talk tips.”

It’s real emotional and erotic exploration — grounded in psychology, lived experience, and consensual intimacy.

This Guide Will:

🔥 Demystify the psychology behind affirmation play — why praise can be as potent as touch.

🔥 Understand the kink spectrum — difference between casual compliments, praise kinks, and how they relate to broader erotic play.

🔥 Explore giver/receiver dynamics — how both partners can enjoy and benefit from praise play safely and consensually.

🔥 Get personal insights from Ashlee’s own experiences — practical, intimate, and real-world context you won’t find anywhere else.

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How to Communicate a Praise Kink to Your Partner

The praise kink falls under the category of psychological play involving heightened emotions and the manipulation of those emotions.

“There are a lot of different kinds of kinks, and play in the world of sex and the praise kink falls under the category of psychological play, but is a serious 180 from the infamously known humiliation kinks.

Psychological play is exactly what it sounds like and it is play that involves emotions and the manipulation of those emotions.

This kind of play causes a submissive to have an emotional response and typically inspires cathartic emotions.

This can be done in a variety of ways, but we’re only going to focus on the differences between humiliation and praise kinks.” - excerpt taken from Ashlee Shares: Exploring The Praise Kink.

The praise kink like all kinks have those who enjoy receiving the praise and those who enjoy giving it.

Those who enjoy receiving the praise love feeling validated and seen by their partner as well as feeling special to them.

And those who enjoy giving the praise love making their partner feel good during sex by using pet-names, giving validation and overall coaxing pleasing behaviours during intercourse.

“The praise kink is about tapping into your partner’s need to be seen by you in that moment. It’s not even about the sex as I’m realizing, although if you do it right, that is exactly where you may end up, afterall kinks are things that provoke arousal.

Sharing your praise kink with your sexual partner is about creating a safe space and admitting to each other what you need from the other.

It’s sexy to know that you are with someone who sees you as an affirming, attractive and intelligent person. It’s beyond hot to know that you’re about to share energies with someone who is open, and willing to pleasure you in different forms.” - excerpt taken from Ashlee Shares: Exploring The Praise Kink.

Within the guide, I share about the difference between the giver and receiver of the kink, the differences between a kink and a fetish, more on how to enjoy the kink safely and of course share my own experiences with it.

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From Ashlee

You've heard the vague talk about the 'Praise Kink' and 'Affirmation Play.'

As your favorite author and journalist, I've done the deep, dirty work, going beyond simple compliments.

I've compiled a comprehensive, no-holds-barred guide into this book, Ashlee Shares: The Praise Kink.

This isn't theory—it’s practical, personal, and profoundly informative knowledge you deserve.

Why We Love The Psychology of Verbal Affirmation

Praise kink — sometimes called affirmation play — isn’t taboo or niche; it’s about how positive reinforcement during intimacy can actually heighten pleasure and emotional safety.

It’s part of the broader world of psychological play, where words feed dopamine, oxytocin, and arousal — whether you’re using phrases like “good girl” or meaningful affirmations that make your partner feel truly seen.

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